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Anonymous asked: do you ever feel really really lonely, and what do you do when it happens

I used to, when I was really depressed. THere was really nothing I could do to make the despairful feeling go away and I just grew accustomed to it and “accepted” that I have to be independent and just find other things besides other people to make myself happy. I think that sort of worked. (Also, meds.) But I think feeling lonely was for me a huge side-effect of the sickness, since it was all about not trusting the people around me or feeling that they are not catering to MY needs specifically, when it was, in the end, my own responcibility to make myself happy, not anyone elses. I’ve been lonely FOR REALS too of course, but then I worked towards my other goals in life and ended up meeting people who I bonded with and didn’t feel so alone anymore. I think if you can’t figure out the people around you, you just have to find new ones (lol harsh I know but necessary sometimes), but there’s of course the tricky possibility of misunderstanding them and taking them for granted. If you feel lonely, talk. If you’re surrounded by people and still feel lonely, it might be because they might not realize how you feel.  I cater to my own occasional loneliness by using three different instant messaging clients, taking every chance of hanging out with people and being OPEN AS HELL whenever I feel troubled/happy/any sort of feeling that I feel the need to share. Keeping stuff to myself is the worst way of making myself feel lonely. Also, since my needs for social interaction are kind of demanding, I am going to live in a commune with three other friends by next summer. 

I hope that helped, anon. My skype is muura.karoliina if you ever want to chat. (Offer also extended to anyone reading this)